Backwards Reality

I wanted to take a few moments to describe for you what I like to call, Backwards Reality.  To me, backwards reality is when we do certain things such as, get married, have kids, choose to go to University, get a good paying job, etc., but we only do them because we believe that is what we are supposed to do according to society!?  I am not saying that any of the above mentioned are negative or inappropriate, but maybe for you they are.  We don't fit in a one size fits all world, so why are we taught to believe that we do?  This next part may shock a few of you, but if you don't want to have kids, don't have them.  If you don't want to get married, don't.  If you don't believe you need a Home with a 2 car garage, a white picket fence, and 2 upper class cars to determine your level of success or self worth, then you don't!  We are always told to strive for our goals, well I propose one better, "You should strive to always continue striving!"  It may sound a bit off, but think about it for a second, life is all about changes, learning new things, and never getting stuck in a routine (unless its one we created purposefully, and positively), so why should you stay at the same job your whole life just to continue earning more and more money?  If you really want to feel what it's like to live, once you have gotten familiar and proficient at something, try something new.  If I strive to become an accountant, and at 30 years of age I achieve it, what do I strive for during the next 30 years?  I say become an accountant, and unless its truly what you love to do and you couldn't imagine doing anything else, after 5 years, try something else in the financial industry, or take a hard left turn and try becoming a Chef if that's something you yearn to try.  Every time you achieve one thing you strive for, there has to be another goal or else life becomes mundane.  We should never stop trying to learn, and we should embrace the unknown.  Fear is a good thing, it enables us to make sound decisions, use your fear for positivity and you'll be amazed by the outcome!  We are all aware that it's fear which hinders us, think about it, why didn't you try that new restaurant, because you feared you wouldn't like it or it couldn't be as good as your usual spot!?  Why didn't you go golfing with your buddies, because you were afraid you'd be no good or you thought you'd embarrass yourself?  My message to all is simple, continue  to grow, continue to learn, continue to strive for greatness, and try to acknowledge that it's fear that stops you from trying many things you would normally try.  Why do we all look at children with such awe and jealousy?  It's not only because they are so cute, innocent, and youthful, although that's what we'd like to believe.  The truth is we remember what it was like to be bright eyed and bushy tailed, we can tell how children are not afraid to try anything until we make them afraid.  Children have the ability to not let distraction and doubt set in, and if they want it, they believe they can get it, well guess what, so can you as an adult.  The secret is, you have to believe it.  Could you actually imagine what a plain world we'd live in if every time a flower blossomed it decided it had plateaued and therefore would never blossom again?